Accused of Being a Suck-Up Thank Them! - Introvert Whisperer

Introvert Whisperer / Accused of Being a Suck-Up Thank Them! - Introvert Whisperer Accused of Being a Suck-Up? Thank Them! I recently spoke at a conference on Office Politics and one of the actions I suggested was forming relationships with your boss and upper management.   (Hmm, relationships â€" sound familiar?)   I was asked this question: Ive been told Im a suck up because I have relationships with management.   What should I do about that? My response:   Tell that person: Thank you for noticing. I want to tell you a few things about why I answered this way. -Forming relationships with your boss and management is a huge part of Managing Up no matter what type of boss you have.   It is never wrong or bad. -People that call you names are acting like a 10-year-old on the playground.   As we know bullies usually dont feel good about themselves.   You backing off on your relationships wont cure their insecurity. -If you’re the one doing the name-calling you need to be ashamed of yourself and work on a new perspective.   The boss isn’t an enemy even if they are a jerk.   Managing up will improve your ability to work well with the boss and if you have a Bad Boss, it will go a long way to soften their dysfunction. -The only thing for you to check on as you support your relationship with your boss is to ensure you arent being a sycophant.   No one, including the boss, likes a person who is being over the top, slathering on complements or compromising your values simply to have a relationship with management. -You can teach others and especially a person who would make a comment like this about why its important.   Maybe point them to my new book: Accelerating Your Career â€" Even with a Bad Boss, a New Approach to Managing Up. You could also suggest they work on their self-esteem or confidence. -If you do have the disgusting type of suck-up in your midst, keep in mind that you can learn from some of what they are doing.   You look at the bad behaviors and disregard but look at what works and adapt it to what will work for you. Dont be bullied into stopping you from doing the right thing. Go to top Power-Influence-Office Politics: it comes down to your Strategic Relationships and understanding of how you build each one of these elements. I want to help you accelerate your career by connecting you with your Free Instant Access to my video that outlines all of this and meaningful actions you can take today!  Start watching now by clicking here! Brought to you by Dorothy Tannahill-Moran â€" dedicated to unleashing your professional potential. Introvert Whisperer